Last week, we talked about consulting a marriage counselor and maintaining positivity – two great tips on how to achieve a peaceful, collaborative divorce. Continue reading below for the rest of the tips.
Focus on the Kids
In many cases, the spouses are not the only ones who will be affected by the divorce. When children are involved, we encourage our clients to keep their focus on what is best for their children. When the divorcing couple can come together with a common mission of protecting their children and settling on a custody agreement which will benefit everyone involved, the divorce process is more peaceful and successful.
Don’t Demand Your Friends Take Sides
When we have been hurt by our spouse, the first person we will turn to is a close friend. It is completely appropriate to confide in someone you trust and lean on them for support. However, when the friendship is shared with your ex-spouse, asking a friend to take sides can increase conflict during the divorce and place unfair pressure on the friendship. Instead, we encourage our clients to declare shared friendship as a neutral territory, which is not only fair to your spouse but also fair to your friends.
Take Care of Yourself
When you are in the middle of a divorce, you may become consumed by the decisions, disagreements, and stressors you are facing each day. Because of this, it is very important you take time to care for yourself each day. When you feel whole and cared for as an individual, you will be empowered to behave maturely and peacefully during divorce mediations.
At the Law Office of Lindsay Soto, clients can work with an experienced family law attorney to peacefully reach agreements concerning every detail of their divorce. To learn more, call 503-315-7344 or click here to schedule a consultation with Lindsay.